Should You Choose to Accept It…

In his book, “Give and Take”, researcher Adam Grant points out that contrary to the myth, the fact is that good guys often do finish first in business. In fact, “givers”, are at the high-performing end of professions such as medicine, engineering and finance. So how come it seems like “takers” are so often the real winners?

We have unfounded perception biases when it comes to takers. They are obvious, standing out in a crowd at work and in society. When they win out, getting promotions or winning deals, people proclaim “There you go, you have to be a taker to win in business and in life” and don’t see the multitude of people around them who give to others, often without expectation of return, succeeding in life, relationships and business (a more comprehensive list of success-based situations than simply dollar earnings).

Grant goes into the nitty-gritty of a great deal of research that demonstrates how to balance out giving with ensuring that you also win, because if you constantly fail then you become dependent or powerless to help others and your own family or succeed in your chosen career and mission.

The reality is, that like the lifeboat or air emergency, we do need to take care of ourselves and our own needs in order to continue to give to others, or we will simply run out of food or oxygen to simply survive and help others to as well, let alone to thrive. Our focus, however, needs to be on others in the end, if we are to truly live and succeed in meaningful ways.

Give and take – not as a balanced equation, but as part of the routine interaction of relationships within life.

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Where You Can See Me Next: January 22, at the Rotary Club of Swan Valley, on “The 7 Deadly Sins of Leaders”

The Great Leaders Project: Spend a half day with me reviewing the fascinating stories and episodes of some of history’s greatest acknowledged secular leaders [*see following note] and take away lessons that you can apply that day. Date will be in 2018, depending on interest. If you would like to do this in a shorter online format instead, let me know. Register your interest by email to [*Religious leaders would involve too many ontological discussions, but if you ever want to do that, let me know and I’ll work it out – I have a minor in theology and worked in the faculty.]

The Business Success Workshop: Too many people fail to thrive in their business simply because they don’t know how to put everything together to execute. We’ll spend one supercharged day together in an entrepreneurial mindset, with owners, MDs and execs from diverse industries looking to dramatically drive forward their business idea. At the same time, we’ll consider the mechanisms you need to employ to ensure that you thrive personally and don’t lose balance in your life while you pursue your mission! Tentatively planned for February 2018. Register your interest by email to

Transformational Leadership Retreat 2018: I’m using all of my coaching, educational & development expertise, research, resources and personal executive leadership experience at ultra-challenging levels to design the ultimate transformational leadership retreat – everything that can be accomplished in two and a half days does that not involve ropes and a drill sergeant yelling at people! I’ll be bringing in the big guns for designing this one and sloughing off all the dross and dregs of buzzwords and buzz strategies, so-called development and research that merely obfuscate and “lose the name of action”. If you want to be involved, or have a request for something you’d really wish you could accomplish through a leadership retreat/workshop, then let me know while I’m in the design phase. Watch this space!

© 2017 Peter J. McLean

Peter McLean’s Monday Morning Mission – 13/11/2017
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